Are you finding it difficult to figure out how to attract a guy? Is it any guy, or just one in particular? Do you feel that your dating life would really improve if you just knew the right techniques? Many of us have asked ourselves these questions as we sat alone on a Saturday night.

The rules of attraction can be complicated, but once you sort them out, learning how to attract a guy can actually be pretty simple. Before you go to the next party or online dating spot, give some thought to these three rules of engagement. You’ll learn how to attract a guy before you know it!

Easy does it.

In the early stages of any relationship, it’s always better to take things slowly. Don’t rush in with bells and whistles, trying desperately to capture a guy’s attention. Try a little subtlety. Yes, be flirtatious and strive to catch his eye, but don’t spook him with too much of a hard sell. Let a charming smile, interested body language, and an attractive demeanor do the selling for you. The first rule, if you want to learn how to attract a guy: slow and steady wins the race.

Be interesting.

If you want to catch a guy’s attention, you must show him that you are worth getting to know. Try mentioning recent activities that might be intriguing to him. Share a humorous experience. But also be just a bit mysterious – don’t tell him your whole history the first time you meet. When you leave the room, you want the guy to say, “What a fascinating woman! When can I see her again?” The second rule on how to attract a guy: be the most captivating woman in the room. Psyche yourself up for this, because in order to be interesting, you must feel interesting.

Be interested.

Just as you must seem like an interesting person to the guy you are trying to attract, it is equally important that you seem interested in him – his thoughts, his experiences, his dreams. Let’s face it: we all like to talk about ourselves. Encouraging a guy to do just that gives him a little ego boost and also makes you seem more fascinating in turn. If you’re trying to attract someone you already know, ask him about his favorite subjects and interests. If he is someone you’ve just met, find out what those interests are! So, rule number 3 on how to attract a guy: talk to him-and about him.

If you’ve always struggled with how to attract a guy, success may not come overnight. As with any new skills, you must first learn the skills and then rehearse them. Try role-playing your new dating behavior at home. Think of interesting subjects to try out – just make sure it doesn’t sound rehearsed. By following three of the primary rules of attraction, you will soon begin to see a real difference in your dating connections. And don’t be greedy – soon you can start teaching your friends how to attract a guy as well!

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How to attract a girl can sometimes seem like your fate is at the mercy of the gods. Well fortunately for you this is not true as today I will be teaching you that the principles of how to attract a girl are both learn-able and achievable.

Most men have got their ideas of how to attract a girl from movies or friends- the friends who too got those ideas from movies. The trouble with this is that movies are often an exaggeration of life and usually what is promoted in them as truth is usually not going to correlate with reality. Movies are made to make sales not to help you learn how to attract women.

I know this first hand due to many years of being snubbed by women and them treating like the ‘nice guy’ who was ‘harmless’ yet pitiable. Well after suffering years of failed attempts I realized that what was being taught by society for how to attract girls was total crap. I started searching for what really works. I scoured the internet and found many many more theories most of them just as crap as the ‘hollywood’ method yet some rare nuggets of gold really did work and it is these which I kept and continue to use. Of course this is a lifelong skill and I continue to learn and improve day by day.

Learning how to attract girls is a process and also a skill like any other. I have heard it likened to learning an instrument in terms of difficulty and duration and I would agree with this. It is generally written hat it takes between 5 and 10 years to reach mastery in any skill and this is no different. If you were looking for a quick fix then that’s too bad because there isn’t one for this or anything that is worth the reward for that matter. That isn’t to say that you won’t get anything out of your practice till you become an absolute master; of course not. As you get better and better at learning how to attract girls you will find your results improve incrementally. So if you batted 0/100 for instance, after 6 months you would bat 6/100. After 2 years maybe 20/100 and so on.

Think of learning how to attract women like lifting weights. When you first enter the gym you will see all the built guys then look at your puny body in the mirror and weep with envy. You hit the weights then your body aches with fire for a week after. Slowly but surely you make incremental improvements in your technique, diet etc. A few months go by and you look yourself in the mirror again and now you see some added definition. This continues as you hone your craft to attain the physique you want. The same goes for learning how to attract girls; the gradual process of improvement from gimp to pimp.

Now 5 and 10 years is the average; 10 being the upper figure. Some may make it in a shorter time. It all depends on where you are starting from. For most though it is going to take at least around 5 years, that is, to really begin to master the art of how to attract women.

Having said that you must also think of your goals. Some guys don’t want to be absolute Olympic champs in this area and that’s fine so long as they are happy with that. In such cases, a guy may just want to settle down with a nice girlfriend. Even so though, it is generally accepted that even such a man must learn how to attract women in general to a reasonable level before settling down with one girl. Many of you may be wondering why and I will tell you…

The reason you have to learn how to attract women in general is that if you just ‘rested on your laurels’ and tried to settle down with the first girl that would have you then this would likely not last long if you hadn’t properly developed yourself. This is because, even though you got this particular girl, in this moment, there would still be many latent unattractive qualities laying dormant in your personality. The effect this would have is that you’d get to go out with the girl a few times, have sex with her and maybe start a relationship but the ‘cracks’ would soon begin to show themselves. Before long the girl would lose attraction and you may end up blaming her and going through the same process again. That isn’t to say you should always blame yourself (I dislike this mentality) but you should take responsibility that you must do what it takes to both get the girl and keep the girl.

Although this is true, you don’t have to become a complete lothario and shun any opportunities of starting a relationship; instead jumping headlong into your next conquest. It does however mean you should look at learning how to attract women as a whole and think of all the areas which you could improve as a man. So perhaps after you are consistent at landing the girl you would want to look into building a strong social network and having other things in your life which, not just the girl, but anyone would find it a pleasure to enjoy. A note though…rather than do these things ‘cos I want to impress others and be cool’ you should do these things for yourself. That means working out what things you are really passionate about and following those passions; the rest then usually falls into place on its own.

So learning how to attract women is really about how to become the best man you can be. There are lots of things you can do to initially attract her, which I talk about in other articles, but a lot of it is about finding your passions and following them. So keep this in mind on your path of learning how to attract a girl.

Dear Loved Ones,

Great day to you all and proceed with care and love. I love you. I love you. I love you.

Please take a few moments out of your busy schedule to bless the planet with light and love. Thank you.

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Proceed With Care And Love

Proceed with care and love and see the results in your life.

This is the call for today.

Proceed with passion for what you believe to be true and reap the benefits inside and out.
Proceed with the innate strength within you and stand tall like the mountains.
Proceed with care and love and watch as your energy dissolves all sadness and procrastination.
Proceed as your true self and allow your vibration to rise ever so high as to be one with the sky ever so clear.
Proceed with all that you’ve got and know that you have the Power within you to complete any and all things you are destined to.

To proceed or Not to proceed?

Let’s Proceed and experience fulfillment within every task we have chosen to do. Proceed and move forward ever so calmly and swiftly as the waters in the rivers flowing from one place to another.

Proceed with the knowing that you are Not alone. That there is an energy, ever so vast and expanded, ever available to guide you. This energy is within your reach, Right Here, Right Now.

Proceed! How long has it been since you have wanted to correct your diet?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have wanted to exercise?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have wanted to meditate?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have wanted to travel?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to go surfing?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to change your life style?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to speak your calling?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to heal yourself?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have decided to change your career?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to get a haircut?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to tell someone that you love them?

Proceed! How long has it been since you have been wanting to love yourself?

Proceed! Give yourself a Big Hug Right Now! Yes, Right Now. Stop whatever you are thinking about and give yourself a Big Giant Hug Right Now. Be one with yourself. Thank you for caring for yourself.

Proceed and move forward moment by moment, step by step, with a knowing that as you proceed all the wonder of all the magnificence of all the light of God and the whole Universe is within and without surrounding and loving you. Powerful yes! Truth yes! Love yes! Light yes! Life yes! For you are one with the Source of all good and grace.

Right where you are and Right where I am is the ever presence of the holly wisdom and intelligence, all available to all of us. So let us all use this wisdom and intelligence and proceed in our lives with care and love. For we are all worthy and deserving of living a joyful and glorious life in every way.

And so it is.

I love you. I love you. I love you.

Please feel free to proceed and share these Insights with your friends, family, associates and enemies to Create Oneness with love and care.

May the love, light and blessings of God and the whole Universe surround, protect and heal you, your loved ones and the planet earth.

With Love, Gratitude and Respect

Truly, With God All Things Are Possible

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BBW dating sometimes bewilders those not accustomed to the acronyms and abbreviations used in commercials for singles dating sites. Others thought it means Big Black Woman. Some, when first came across the term, apprehended that it meant Big and Breasted Woman. After being more familiar to the trend, they’ve learned that it simply means Big Beautiful Woman. To say it simpler, it refers to those women often in the plus size sections in the department stores.

Of course, there is no strong and quick rule as to where the range of being a BBW starts. Many people are not in favor of the idea of giving labels on people. But, many use labels as a convenient short-cut and will judge other people, or effortlessly classify them, according to the job they have, their ethnic race, color, what car they drive, how much income they earned, etc. even their clothing size.

Although BBWs may come in different shapes and sizes, one would be considered a BBW if they are, and those who know them, would consider them to be overweight or wear plus sizes clothes.

The modern and present, Big Beautiful Women are more likely to be voluptuous and curvy and are proud and confident of it. Some of the most successful women in the entertainment world have often times been considered as BBWs. For instance: Queen Latifah, Kate Winslet, Jennifer Hudson, Kirsty Alley, Oprah Winfrey, and Sybil Shepherd.

Often, these women are not considered fat or obese. They simply have the built of what a woman should have – full of curves. For instance, Kate Winslet was considered as one of the sexiest women in the world of entertainment. Sensuous and delightful; however, with today’s standards, her full figure might be considered in excess.

For anyone who wants to engage in dating, finding quality singles regardless of shapes and sizes can be a very difficult task. For those who come in bigger packages, this can be true. This is the reason why some dating services have been established to provide services especially for those who are bigger in size. They provide mode of dating for singles searching the opposite sex, as well as same sex commitments. These sites or places are for those seeking for the BBW or BHM and their admirers or match. Modern matchmaking or dating methods give chances for companionship, friendship, or even love and romance.

It’s often been stated that men normally like women who are curvaceous and are tired of those who are skinny like brooms with long hair. Women with sexy curves are actually considered to be among the most attractive and sexiest. An example is Jennifer Lopez who is full of curves.

That is also the reason why BBW sites are emerging and becoming very popular. For the single and Big Beautiful Woman, she now only has to surf onto the Internet if she wants to find a date. She no longer has to fear being seen as loveless and dateless in the eyes of her scrutinizing friends.

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Are you aware of that to do to attract a man without looking like you are desperate? Is it alright to be the one that makes the first move? Have you been attempting everything to get the guy you like to notice you? It would be easy if women could just approach a guy they liked. But just because we are girls doesn’t mean we can’t take any action. Actually, there is a lot we can do to show a guy that we like them. Here are 4 steps to take to attract a guy.

1. Make him aware of who you are

You cannot expect to be attractive to a guy if he doesn’t know that you exist. He needs to be aware of you. So how do you do this? You can start by being buddies with his buddies. You can hang out at the same places as him. Ask his friends to introduce you to him. You should do this casually. Don’t reveal to his friends how much you like him. They are his buddies and would be sure to reveal this information to him.

2. See what you have in common

It will be easy to have a conversation if you can discuss his interests. To make it simple, discuss things that the two of you have in common. You should make a list in your head of the interests that you share so that you have lots to talk about with him. You need to get his attention. He should consider you as someone he can relate well to.

3. Be friends first

Once you have begun a conversation with the guy, it should be simple for the two of you to be friends. The key to attracting a guy is initially to not try to attract him at all. Act in the beginning as though you just want to be buddies. You don’t want to come on too strong and chase him away. So take it slow. Don’t flirt with him or tell him your feelings for him. Be aware that you need to be friends first, before anything else develops.

4. Have clear intentions

Don’t pretend to be just friends for too long. After you’ve been buddies for a couple of months, the time has come to make clear your intentions. When you are having a nice discussion, reveal to him how you really feel about him. This is a very important step. He needs to know that you really like him, and that you are keen to be more than friends.

To find out more about how to get male attention, click Understand Men. You’ll learn all the secrets to make a man Fall in Love with you.

Evangeline Harris is a dating and relationship expert. Her passion is to write informative articles for women who want to improve their love lives. Visit her site for more information.

So what is the true secret to attracting girls? Why is it that some guys get all the attention from girls as and when they please while others keep struggling to even initiate a conversation with girls? Now you might be thinking that these guys are naturally gifted with the power to attract girls but the fact is the exact opposite. They are not born this way rather they know what works with girls and what does not. Remember it’s all about your skills and how you use them. These skills can be easily developed with practice. Read on to discover how to attract girls using these special skills.

Communication- This is one of the most overlooked skill when it comes to attracting girls and getting the best results. Communication lays the basic foundation of attracting girls and you simply can not attract girls unless you become a very good communicator. Your personality is represented by the way you talk and present yourself. Girls tend to evaluate guys based on the very first five minutes of conversation with them. This is normally the time frame when they make a mental judgment on the person they are talking to. Therefore learn to develop and master your communication skills in order to really attract girls.

Respect yourself- Girls are normally attracted to men who respect themselves and know their true self worth. Remember the more value you add to yourself the more attractive you would become to girls.

Never chase them- Girls don’t want a man who chases girls everywhere rather they would become highly attracted towards you if you have girls chasing you. It’s a simple concept you see. If you are already being chased by other girls than you automatically become a rare commodity and girls are always in the lookout for men who are wanted by other girls.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know

The Torchbearer – S/he will love me one day

It sounds silly for one to be addicted to unrequited love, but it can sometimes be the result of growing up in a household where love was either conditional or not consistent. As a child, the “torchbearer,” may have been always trying to win the love, praise or affection from a parent (or someone else influential) who was unavailable, abusive or failed to provide proper nurturing…. or the child could have witnessed one parent in a sort of unrequited love relationship with the other and could have taken that energy on. If it wasn’t an issue of childhood environment, then possibly some sort of other trauma occurred to upset the torchbearer’s self-esteem and their ability to feel safe receiving love. It can also result from a sudden and unexpected separation, betrayal, health, or appearance issue.

At an existential level, the torchbearer may have developed a belief that they are not worthy of love and they may find themselves attracted to love situations that seem to keep them stuck in this dynamic: loving someone, but not able to fully receive love back. Although the person feels unworthy of love on some level, often they know they are worthy on another level, which the torchbearer then may become confused as to why they stay addicted to an unavailable person. The relationship then becomes about fantasy, idealization, avoidance, or a love-hate relationship ensues where the addict both loves and disapproves of the object of their devotion.

According to love addiction expert Susan Peabody, the main categories of love addictions include:

obsessed love addicts: obsess and can’t let go even if their partners are unavailable or abusive
codependent love addiction: needy to please partner for sense of self
narcissistic love addicts: take advantage of their partner and can act disinterested, selfish or abusive and yet still feel addicted to partner and can’t let go
ambivalent love addicts: this category includes unrequited love addicts (also known as “torch-bearers”), saboteurs, seductive withholders, and romance addicts. The main goal through this kind of love addiction is the avoidance of true deep emotional intimacy and bonding. These addicts crave love and affection, but are afraid to get too close at the same time.
Unrequited love addicts are part of the category of Ambivalent Love Addicts. Susan Peabody was the first to create the term “Ambivalent Love Addiction”. Her book “Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships,” is an amazing book for anyone wishing to learn more about love addiction.

To be an ambivalent love addict, or torchbearer, means that one deeply craves love, intimacy, commitment, and unconditional love. However, at the same time, one has fears of relating deeply to another person. Such love addicts can end up pushing love away or holding it at a distance. Subconsciously, it can feel much safer for these individuals to love someone who isn’t fully there or who doesn’t want a full-on commitment. Picking an individual who is married, committed to another, distant, a player, a saboteur, or a sex addict may act to help the torchbearer avoid a true relationship. Some torchbearers end up addicted to friends or colleagues and hope the relationship will become something more.

With many of the torchbearers that I have read, I find there is usually an excuse to continue chasing the love interest. However, there is also always a counterproductive excuse for never letting the love interest know their real feelings. It is even possible that if the object of infatuation actually returned affection or expressed desire for commitment towards the love addict, the love addict might not crave the interest anymore. One popular excuse that I have heard reads something like: “getting what I wanted or asked for took too long, therefore I no longer trust the love interest anymore, so I no longer want a relationship.” Once the love interest gives up, separation anxiety sets in again. Why does this occur? An illusion has been broken and the person idolized has become more human and less of a challenge to the ego.

The torchbearer runs the risk that even if they obtain the object of their desire they may not achieve the closeness or intimacy they desire unless they change why they were addicted in the first place. Sometimes the addiction simply changes. An addict may transform from a torchbearer into a seductive withholder. They can even start becoming a codependent love addict if the once unrequited love relationship begins to become real.

So, how do you know if you are addicted to unrequited love?

What are the symptoms? The symptoms listed below are not comprehensive, but ones I typically see with clients (usually women):

Do you obsess over or find yourself only attracted to love interests who are not available in some way or who are married, playing you, who are “just friends,” or have left you?
Do you fear communication or to let the person know your interest in them, feelings, and other basic questions for fear of rejection or to keep the fantasy going? Or do you find yourself communicating but unable to accept a lack of response or a non-commital response without hoping if you wait long enough you will be wholly wanted?
Do you suffer in silence while you hold adoration towards someone who doesn’t really know? Some unrequited love addicts pursue their interests opening and ardently, but others can hold torches for people who they will not let themselves get close to nor let themselves be revealed in any real way.
Do you expect your love interest to be psychic/empathic and to just know and interpret your feelings and needs, even though there has been no grounded communication? Are you living out your relationship psychically or vicariously through “signs” or empathic feelings that the other person may be thinking about you, even if there is no contact?
Do you find yourself always hoping and waiting for the other person to make an interest in you known?
Can you never feel “close” in a real way to the person you are holding a torch for?
Are you always living out the relationship in your head?
Are you continually asking yourself many questions, wondering about the other person feelings and intentions (or potential future intentions) without ever grounding anything to test to see if any fantasies are real?
Do you have other addictions, such as to sex, psychics, alcohol etc?
Do you feel you cannot let go of the love interest even though it is not making you feel loved? Do feel powerless to stop at will.
Is the preoccupation with this interest having a more negative affect on you spiritually, financially and other ways than positive? In the end, are you losing more than you gain?
Do you have a history of being hurt or obsessing on lack of love, attention or approval by a parent or someone else influential in your earlier life?
For those with less intense expressions of this addiction: are you confused why you only seem to attract or are attracted to unavailable people or people who are not 100% wanting a relationship? And with this, do you feel bored with people who are into you or once a relationship starts to develop? Does it seem that all the people who would be right and loving towards you, you cannot “fall in love” with?
If you have an “interest” that you crave but are afraid to reach out to in any real and genuine way for fear of rejection, then you might be addicted to unrequited love. You may also be addicted if there is an underlying knowledge that expressing your wants and needs would not be appropriate. I’ve talked to many clients who are totally engaged with these types of interests, sometimes even sexually. But, usually they know on some level there are certain things they cannot ask/dare put forward cause the relationship is casual though they want something more. Though the “craving” is not always required, this article is mostly written for the hard core unrequited love addict.

Here is an example of one kind of non-communicative unrequited love addict who does have some relationship and interaction with her love interest:

A woman starts to like an attractive man. They meet and there is some flirting — the man seems interested to the woman. Information is exchanged followed by mixed signals that mark the relationship. The woman starts obsessing and fantasizing about having a relationship with the man. However, the man won’t make a clear move and the woman ends up doing most of the contacting to keep interaction ongoing. The woman acts casual because she wants the man to make his interest known first. She is getting some cues of affection and indication of interest, but it’s kept superficial and she is always unsure. This goes on for some time, sometimes months, and she starts thinking “Does this guy really want a relationship or am I just casual or a friend?” Despite feeling a sense of unknowing and distress, the woman will never risk asking to find out. She starts asking advice from other friends who tell her to forget about the man, but she hangs on in hope he will ask for a real date or commitment or show he cares.

The man is simply not putting out vibe of wanting a full-on relationship. However, she starts to fantasize that maybe he is just scared, can’t communicate or is insecure. She fantasizes that he will start to be more demonstrative or want something more if she can just hang in or never upset the status quo. She even wonders, “should I say something or make a move”, but something inside is telling her it’s not safe to tell this person how she feels because they are not on the same page, so she withholds keeps holding a torch for this person. She finds out the man has started to pursue someone else and she feels upset and feels betrayed. But, still, she has never had clear indication they are in a “relationship.”

In the worst cases of unrequited love addiction I have seen, the client is addicted to psychics, using spell casters to cast spells to make their love more available, or are even asking for healing sessions on the person they are addicted to hoping healing something in their love interest will change the reality of what is going on.

What Can You Do If This Sounds Like You?

Often, I see two main themes running in these relationships: fear of true communication (or fear of accepting a communication or lack there of), and fear of vulnerability & rejection. Many times I also recommend torchbearers learn how to set boundaries and how to respect others boundaries. If the torchbearer is holding on waiting for a “sign” or demonstration from the love object, afraid of giving up, learning communication would help with getting out of fantasizing a relationship and making it more real. In the least, the torchbearer can get closure, if the love addict’s desires are not reciprocated.

Getting closure isn’t always an easy thing for a love addict. It is often considered to be a harsh rejection. Many frightened unrequited love addicts wish to avoid being hurt at all costs. However, with this cost, these love addicts avoid true intimacy and relationships.

Most unrequited love clients I work with have a shut down throat chakra. They may have been raised or learned through some experience that expressing feelings or needs is a burden on others, a sign of weakness, inferiority or something to be afraid of. Codependent types are afraid to cause any sort of confrontation or rejection for themselves. However, the only way out is through. The crux is that this dynamic is used to avoid another hurt or rejection and this continues the cycle of avoiding true commitment, intimacy and bonding.

Step 1: Communication With Yourself

The first step is for the torchbearers to ask themselves what they truly want from a relationship. What is their vision of how they want to be loved and committed to? This step may be one of the hardest. The unrequited love addict may be so used to avoiding confrontation that asking them to figure out what they want and need seems strange. Torchbearers ask themselves “How do I get someone who doesn’t care to do so? How can I be better? More lovable?” Simply leaving an unrequited love may not solve the problem either. It may just transfer the love addiction from one of pursuing the unrequited love interest to holding a torch and suffering in silence while pining after the loss. They may remain stuck, wondering if maybe this person is still missing them or thinking of them and it gives them hope for reconciliation.

Step 2: Communication With Your Love Interest

If communication is possible to ask for closure, this is the next step. I recommend asking in direct ways and not just looking for “signs.” State what you want out of love and a relationship, and ask the object of your affection if they feel they will ever be able to give it. Risk hearing the truth and risk rejection. This helps break the fantasy and though may be incredibly painful, it is the next step towards risking true intimacy and attracting the right relationship and breaking through all the fears that prevent it from coming. The whole idea of love addiction is the belief that without love one is nothing. If one can risk losing love and still see themselves as whole, then one can start going into relationships with sense of self as a sole identity which another can complement, rather than feeling another will complete them.

Fear of intimacy (getting to know someone deeply), commitment, communication, rejection, boundaries, and confrontation needs to be challenged. Love addicts can also seem like perpetual victims or trauma junkies. So healing the need to be a victim is key too.

Taking on the challenge of learning to set boundaries, risk confrontation and rejection, to communicate ones wants and needs (and listening to another’s – which this might be the real fear) may seem overwhelming. But, it is the only way out. All of this should be targeted, in addition to working on childhood issues, which implanted some of these fears and patterns.

Step 3: Accepting What Is Communicated Back or Any Lack Of A Response

Sometimes, the love addict at this stage may have been totally clear with their love interest what they want and they still feeling or receiving mixed signals. The person of their infatuation may be ambivalent, stringing them along, or afraid to just be honest and give them the closure they need. Sometimes there may be a lack of response — ie: an email is sent to the love object who appears to be avoiding sending a response back. In these cases, aim for setting a boundary for yourself on how long you will wait for what you need and stick to it. Be willing to recognize when you need to either end a relationship or at least bring it down to a more casual and detached level while you pursue other options.

For those who find they are always making clear what they want and are still waiting to receive it or feeling unheard, the lesson may be in knowing when its time to stop voicing your needs and wants realizing they will not be met or cared for. Just affirm to yourself as much as you can that you can and are willing to find someone who can meet your wants and needs.

Step 4: Changing and Challenging One’s Views on Love

I also recommend changing how one views love. There is something self-absorbed in all the withholding and holding on. It is focused on fear and self-protection instead of love or generosity and true interest in another person and their needs and feelings. Many love addicts actually fool themselves into thinking their co-dependence is proof that they are being more loving than anything else. However, love is about extending and exposing oneself in the face of rejection and providing a safe and open place for someone else to extend and expose themselves. Love is not manipulative, wanting to change people or situations or waiting for such situations or people to change.

Love is not about being a martyr either. If you can’t take a risk to know anyone else or have them tell you their wants and needs, or accept or listen when they are not on the same page, how can you expect someone to care and listen concerning your own wants and needs?

Not all unrequited love addicts are afraid to state their wants, needs, and boundaries. But, often what can happen is the torchbearer is always stating needs and boundaries and they are not listening to what is being conveyed back. They keep hoping the love object will change, mature, or outgrow his detached stance.

A Few Self-Help Healing Tools

While one can always benefit from professional therapies, coaching, and alternative healing sessions geared towards transmuting thought patterns, there are a few healing tools that can be used to assist recovery from love addictions (feel free to look for others as I only mention a few here).

If one has ever used “flower essences” before (a form of homeopathy), Australian Bush Flower Essences (www.abfeusa.com for more information) has a “Relationship Essence” which contains the following:

Boab: helps bring change, helps clears negative core patterns that are rooted in family and which are inherited. Can also help clear negative lines of karma that exist between individuals and past life influence.
Bluebell: is for those who cut themselves off from their feelings and helps to open the heart and to disolve greed and rigidity. Emotions are present but withheld and there is even fear of expressing positive emotions such as joy and love, etc through operation of fear that there is just not enough and they can’t survive if they let go of all they hold onto.
Bottlebrush: helps one to resolve mother issues and helps one embrace major life changes. It brushes away the past allowing individuals to move on and go forward.
Bush Gardenia: helps one to renew passion and interest in relationships. Helps with intimacy, and resolving where there is too much self-interest or lack of awareness in a partnership.
Dagger Hakea: Is for helping on to release resentments, bitterness and grudges.
Flannel Flower: is for those who fear emotional or physical intimacy, getting too close and who have a hard time maintaining personal boundaries. Helps one to garner trust to express ones innermost feelings.
Red Helmet Orchid: Helps for resolving father issues, probelms with confrontation or authority.
Red Suva Frangipani: Is for the rocky relationship that is challenged and is also for resolving deep sense of loss and sadness when a relationship is in trouble or has ended. Helps to heal that feeling of Wedding Bush: Is for issues with commitment to a relationship, job, goal etc. It can be used for individuals who tend to flit from one relationship to another, or for those who leave relationships when the crush phase or initial attraction has diminished.
A book I highly recommend is Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships by Susan Peabody (co-founder of LAA).

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is another tool that can help with love addictions. EFT can be easy to learn for free from demonstrations on YouTube or free downloads on various sites.

Mandy, is an Empathic Intuitive, Clairaudient, Card Reader and Energy Worker. She has worked as a psychic for many years and has her own CBS radio show called “The Voice Of Empowerment”. In her efforts to help clients through EFT she has authored the “Path To Emotional Freedom” EFT and Chakra deck as well as a Facebook Application based on the same cards. Mandy’s goal is to provide both sessions and self-help tools for those who wish to learn to heal themselves.

This program is called The Tao of Badass by Josh Pellicer and the question is, can this program work for you? After reviewing the course, I would most certainly say yes. If you are struggling with women or not happy with the quality or quantity of women you have in your life you owe it to yourself to do something.

This will be a quick Tao of Badass Review and after you’re done reading, you’ll know whether this will be something you’ll want to peruse further. On with the show.

Firstly, this book is super easy to read. It’s not convoluted, confusing and laced with jargon. It’s simple and straight to the point. As you know, most books are one or two chapters with the remainder being filler – this is not the case. All 10 chapters are meaningful and play an important role in helping you become good with women.

It’s funny because The Tao of Badass not only relates to being successful with women, but being successful in other areas of life as well. If you are able to boost your confidence and improve your outlook on life, you will see more benefits than just waking up to a hot girl a couple times a week. I mean, having more women in your bed is great… I am just saying you’ll get more than you bargain for.

Chapter 2 is absolutely awesome. Josh talks about gender roles and to me this was one of the most informative and eye-opening chapters. After I finished reading it, I re-read it. From there I started thinking about all my experiences and how the masculine and feminine roles and energy play such a crucial role. A role I never paid any attention to until now. If you decide to invest in this book and improving yourself, read chapter 2 a couple times – it’s well worth it.

Too many dating gurus and people that claim they know what they’re doing sit back and say “just be confident.” Nobody ever takes the time to explain what confidence is, how it’s formed, and how we become a more confident person. Pellicer breaks down confidence in such a simple way you’ll be left with nothing in your mind except “that makes sense.” And that’s good, that’s exactly what the book is going for. The difference between having and not having confidence is night and day. Pay attention here.

Now unlike the “be yourself” approach, The Tao of Badass provides a system for you. Each phase of the system has several steps. There’s no getting lost here. Each piece has it’s purpose and there are great explanations as to why people have trouble in each spot. For example, why she’s not qualifying herself even though you think she’s into you. You’re going to have a lot of “A-Ha” moments… that’s good.

Along with confidence, attracting women has a lot to do with body language. In other words, how you project yourself. You’ll quickly find out how to position yourself for maximum attractiveness. And this isn’t a joke. Approaching in a confident way with great posture, slow movement and a powerful voice will yield you significantly better results than approaching in a closed-off and quiet manner.

The only real downside to Josh Pellicers The Tao of Badass is that he doesn’t touch on humor. Humor is an important piece of the puzzle when it comes to dating and meeting new women. That’s okay though, humor is only 5% of it. The remaining 95% is given to you. That’s more than enough to be wildly successful with girls.

The Tao of Badass teaches men everything they need to know on how to attract women.

What does guys want and how can you attract a guy even if you’re shy? It’s no mystery that you should already be yourself if you want to attract guys. But that alone won’t really help you. The game of attraction and seduction is a lot more than just being yourself. There are certain “rules” and set steps that are designed to work no matter what guy you’re after or what kind of girl you are.

It’s universal because it’s human nature to react and feel a certain way. How to attract a guy is just about understanding a few key components about what guys pay attention two.

First and foremost. The number one thing that gets guys attention is physical appearance. Men are naturally visual creatures and looks are always the first thing guys notice. But that doesn’t mean you need to be Angelina Jolie hot. Looking hot is about getting the right tools to help you get there if you’re determined to attract guys. This means, dressing how hot girls dress and wearing the type of make up that hot girls wear.

This does NOT mean you should change yourself completely 360 to appeal to guys. It means accentuating what you have and bringing out more of your personality through make up and clothes.

That all has to do with gaining more confidence in yourself too. When you know you look good, you will naturally feel a certain way that you wouldn’t if you didn’t. As confident guys naturally attract you, guys are attracted to confident girls too.

Master how to be fun and flirty in conversations and tease the guy a lot! Guys love this. A bit of touching here and there is great to build attraction between you also.

Best of all know to keep eye contact with guys and be ready with a smile. Being inviting is half the job as most guys (who aren’t extremely shy) will come over to you.

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Girls belong to different age groups but college girls are the hardest to attract and seduce. It can be a huge mountain to climb when it comes to attracting college girls. They have larger demands and expect more being at that age group. You would never be able to seduce college girls unless you get your approach, personality and body language right. The old conventional dating scene is outdated now therefore all old tricks of the dating book would not help you much in order to attract college girls. Most girls at that age are used to guys hitting on them all the time and know which dating book they got their tricks from. Therefore it is very important to do something different from the rest. Read on to discover some of the best ways to attract and seduce college girls.

Do you have that urge? – Most guys tend to have a strong urge to impress the girl they are talking to every single time. The best way to impress her is by the way of being yourself. Yes it’s that easy! Most guys try to act like someone else and are never able to attract or seduce college girls. All you need to do is be yourself and girls are highly impressed by honesty and transparency. Just retain your present personality and you would naturally attract girls.

Being interesting is the key- College girls are very quick to get bored and like spontaneity being at that age. Always be as interesting as possible and never let your conversation go into that strange silence mode. Even if you feel your conversation is getting weird silence stops in between always ask her some questions and think about more topics when she answers you. Remember it’s all in the words and no girl would be seduced unless you get your words right.

You want a date not a friend- One of the biggest mistakes which most guys make is that they tend to get too friendly with the girls. You would never attract or seduce college girls unless you concentrate on getting a date and not a friend. Once you get too friendly to college girls they would put you into the friend category and most college girls do not prefer to date friends. They would only keep you around to have a good time with you and nothing else. So the key here is not to be too friendly and not to get too personal at the initial stages of conversation. Follow all the steps mentioned above and you would be an expert at on how to attract and seduce college girls within days.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know